Self-discipline is a greater form of self-love.
Discipline is loving yourself enough to say no to the things that aren’t good for you and loving yourself enough to say yes to the things that will uplift and encourage self-growth. It’s ditching the distractions to focus on what truly needs your focus, putting in the work daily to change your patterns and habits, having the patience to see it through day in, day out, and experiencing the delayed rewards.
Loving yourself is keeping the promises you make to yourself. This is how you start to build self-trust.
Show up as your own best parent, you, taking care of you. This teaches you that you are WORTHY of being shown up for and trust that you are. Allowing your inner guidance, your intuition, to direct your choices rather than listening to external factors.
Self-discipline is like a muscle: it will strengthen the more you work on developing it and practicing it.
7 Rules for Developing Self-Discipline:
1. Start Small: Set up Short Term and Long Term Goals
- Begin by choosing ONE goal that you want to focus on to develop your self-discipline
2.Find Your Why: What’s Your Motivation?
- Once you've chosen a goal, list the reasons why you want to achieve it. Try to express these reasons in a positive way.
3. Identify Obstacles
- Identify the obstacles that you'll likely face when working toward your goal, and devise a strategy for overcoming.
4. Practice Visualization
- Most of our self-doubts and concerns are in our mind. Learn how to visualize your goals and dreams as if they were here in the now. What does it feel like? Smell like? What do you see? Hear? Describe in detail!
5. Replace Old Habits
- Behavior 101: When we're developing any new habit that you want to reoccur in your life, for example, self-discipline, replace the old/negative behavior with something more productive. Be specific about WHAT you want and HOW you’ll achieve it.
𝙄 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 (𝙣𝙚𝙬 𝙝𝙖𝙗𝙞𝙩) 𝙖𝙩 (𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚) 𝙞𝙣 (𝙡𝙤𝙘𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣).
*𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘈𝘵𝘰𝘮𝘪𝘤 𝘏𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘣𝘺 𝘑𝘢𝘮𝘦𝘴 𝘊𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳
6. Set Up Your Environment
- Who do you hang around? Do they influence you positively? Do they encourage and uplift you? DO they make fun of your goals or accomplishments?
- “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”Jim Rohn
- Behavior is a function of the person in their environment. Kurt Lewin, Psychologist, 1936
7. Monitor Your Progress
- Keep a journal to write down your self-discipline goals, to track your progress, and to keep you accountable. Notice how your feeling throughout this process. Monitoring your progress reinforces the positive changes that you're implementing in your life, which in turn builds self-trust, AND it also gives you a tangible record that you can look back on to see your progress.